Dear Elle – a letter from myself

Dear Me,

You’ve come so far!

You may have read my Instagram post already, I’m not sure! But if you haven’t, I will elaborate a little more on this post.

Five years ago, I remember thinking to myself, “it’d be great if people actually bought my writing.” At the time, I was heavy into writing on forums with my amazing writing crew [Lou Wilham and Christis Christie, who I dragged into the publishing world–you’re welcome ladies.] I wrote for hours every day, which was fantastic because I loved it. There was nothing like playing off of my friend’s characters while exploring my own.

I had the usual thoughts, “It’d be nice if…” but always listened to the demons in my head that told me no one would ever like my stuff. What did my voice offer to others?

Eventually, I found an author who would convince me to just do it. That was K.M. Robinson. K.M. didn’t baby my anxiety. She just shrugged and said, “Do it, or don’t.” Not going to lie, I had a “But…” on the tip of my tongue, but what? My excuses were crutches, and it was time to move forward.

How did I let go and do it?

  1. I had an amazing support team in Lou Wilham and Christis Christie.
  2. I just wrote. I stopped thinking so much about every outside source and WROTE.
  3. I trusted my support team to read/give helpful feedback and marched forward.
  4. I chose to Self Publish instead of go Traditional, which helped ease my anxieties a lot. I didn’t have to worry about querying, or finding an agent.

Was it easy? No. I honestly had my moments of wanting to trash it, but who doesn’t? It helped that I had another project lined up with a stiff deadline! This kept my momentum going.

My advice to aspiring writers is simple, and perhaps a touch cliche: keep writing, you can’t edit a blank page. Find your circle, find your mentors, and trust them when you can’t trust yourself.

Have a similar experience or question? Drop them below.

Until next time,

Happy Reading!



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